Every person is unique, special, and different; therefore, he/she has the unique personality traits that influence his/her values, patterns of behavior, and attitudes. The personality traits are dependent on the family background, education, surrounding, and values in the society. Moreover, the diversity of genders, religions, races, ethnicities, and sexual orientations also determines personality traits. Personality traits are the ways to people's understanding, interaction, and cooperation. Not without a reason, Friedman and Schustack (2012) state that knowing personality traits is the way to integration and using a full potential of knowledge, traits, and personal strengths can help to achieve a set goal. High agreeableness, high conscientiousness, and security are the traits that can describe my personality, my patterns of behavior, and values.
My two features, high agreeableness and high conscientiousness, are related to the Big Five Personality theory that is based on the following factors of personality: openness to experience, neuroticism, conscientiousness, agreeableness, and extroversion (Cherry, 2017). There were many researchers that contributed to the development and growth of that theory - Cattel in the 1950s, Raymond Christal and Ernest Tupes in 1961, and Lewis Goldberg in 1981 (Cherry, 2017). The advantage of the Big Five Personality theory is that it is universal and takes into consideration the biological origins. Moreover, the choice of personality traits is preconditioned by a social landscape. The peculiarity of this theory is that it presents a range of two extremes. The researchers contrast extraversion vs. introversion, neuroticism vs. emotional stability, conscientiousness vs. lack of direction, agreeableness vs. antagonism, and openness vs. closedness to experience.
High agreeableness is one of the main traits that influence my relationships with other people, describe me as an individual, and reveal my attitudes and values. According to Cherry (2017, p.1), high agreeableness is a personality dimension that includes attributes such as trust, altruism, kindness, and other prosocial behaviors. People with high agreeableness are ready to help others, make other people happy, are empathetic and concerned for other people. Moreover, they are caring and prosocial. High agreeableness presupposes the presence of such features as altruism, tender-mindedness, modesty, trust, compliance, and straightforwardness. The scientists believe the heritability of agreeableness is 41% (Cherry, 2017, p.1). High agreeableness is a positive personality trait as people who have this feature are more cooperative and less manipulative and competitive. Furthermore, people who have a low agreeableness can insult others easily and do not care about other peoples problems.
There are many situations in my life that prove that I have a high agreeableness. First, I trust people and sometimes it is good but there are moments when I wonder why I am not less trustful. For example, once I bought sports shoes online as I am an athlete and I have little time to spend on shopping. I paid the whole sum of money in advance, but the man who sold those shoes disappeared so I lost my money and did not get my shoes. If I were less trustful, I would check the site more carefully. Second, I can forgive people if they betray or deceive me. For example, I have a friend who is my partner in dancing, but she is not reliable as she can miss our lessons frequently stating that she is sick or using other reasons as explanation. However, in reality, she deceives me as she has other plans and does not want to inform me about them. I can be furious because of this, but when she comes, I pardon her immediately.
Another personality trait that I have related to the Big Five Personality theory is a high conscientiousness. Cherry (2017, p.1) defines conscientiousness as the dimension that includes thoughtfulness, with good impulse control and goal-directed behavior. It means that people with a high consciousness always try to control the situation and complete the set tasks. The main components of conscientiousness are deliberation, competence, self-discipline, order, achievement striving, and dutifulness (Cherry, 2017). People with a high level of conscientiousness are mindful when it comes to details and organized. The strength of this personality trait is that people who possess it have a set schedule, are attentive and responsible, spend much time for preparing, and finish the important tasks immediately. People who have a low consciousness are less successful and effective as they fail to complete the tasks according to the deadline, make messes, and dislike schedules.
The example of my high conscientiousness is related to my hobbies and interests. As I am an athlete, it is a must for me to be organized and responsible. First, I am self-disciplined, as I know the right balance between training and rest, eating and following a diet. Moreover, I am not lazy as I can spend all of my time on training, especially when I know that soon I will play soccer. Second, I like order in everything, namely my thoughts, plans, and things. Consequently, I have a diary where I write down all my plans and intentions and put the deadlines. Furthermore, for me cleaning is like a ritual, as I hate when something is not put in its place. My motto is "order in things leads to order in mind". Third, I am achievement-oriented, therefore, sports and dancing are my interests. When I play soccer or volleyball, I always strive to be the best to contribute to the team's victory.
My security trait is related to the Attachment theory that intends to explain and describe peoples patterns of relationships during the entire life. The Attachment theory was presented by the psychologists John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth (Goldberg, Muir, & Kerr, 2013). The Attachment theory studies two models such as the model of self that presupposes dependence and the model of other that involves avoidance. Moreover, this theory determines such personality traits as secure, preoccupied, dismissing, and fearful (Goldberg et al., 2013). Furthermore, the Attachment theory defines the level of these traits that can be positive or low and negative or high. The attachment styles are the ways of dealing with a loss in relationships, separation, and attachments that influence the development and growth of an individual as a personality. Furthermore, this theory is interested in the emotional bonds between people that depend on their abilities to connect. The Attachment theory focuses on all people in a human's life, as it is the way of understanding the challenges in relationships.
Being secure is the possibility to remain in comfort and safety that is provided by family, friends, and society. A person can feel secure if he/she is not afraid, does not feel a threat to his/her physical and moral wellness. Moreover, this person has somebody who can remove this danger or threat. As people do not live in an ideal world, they may deal with the aspects and factors that can threaten their life, health, and wellness. The aspect of security is extremely important in the first years of life. Most researchers believe that if a person did not feel safe in the first years of life, he/she will have challenges in relationships in adult life (Goldberg et al., 2013). Being secure presupposes giving physical and emotional attention that can result in the proper attachment to other people. Moreover, people who feel secure are able to cope with challenges, stress, and discomfort.
I have no separation issues and problems in the relationships with other people; therefore, I think that I am secure. First, my family provides me with support and help in any situation. Thus, I can rely on them and do not feel fear and uncertainty. Second, since childhood, I have felt that my parents are ready to sacrifice everything to provide me with a happy and rewarding life. I have trustworthy and reliable friends; therefore, I know that in this society I am not lonely and isolated. Thus, the aspect of security simplifies my process of the interaction and socialization and makes me feel a part of the community. Another situation that proves that I am a secure person is that I am not afraid of challenges and can deal with them without panic and fear. When I have issues on the way to the achievement of my objectives, I will never give up on my goals and I will find the means to fulfill them.
In conclusion, it is necessary to say that high agreeableness, high conscientiousness, and security are the traits that help me to interact with other people, deal with challenges, and contribute to my personal development and growth. These traits can describe my personality, the patterns of behaviors, and values. I am very thankful to my family, peers, and other people who influence the formation of these traits. Moreover, I believe that I should reinforce the level of these features with my behaviors, actions, and values. Thus, high agreeableness is my driving force of the relationships with other people, high conscientiousness encourages my success and efficacy, and security makes me feel comfortable and confident. Finally, it is obvious that our behaviors, values, and actions are the outcomes of our personality traits.